Well actually, no. It’s all much better in my head where Walt Disney writes most of the scripts and there are rainbows and butterflies. But what came before the colorful rainbows and fluttering butterflies?
The idea of something might sound really great, but the reality is that it takes a lot of hard work and some ugly prickly scenarios and lightning might even strike to get there. The idea of watching your kids and grandkids play in the backyard while you pour lemonade and your husband of 27 years barbecues on the grill, but the reality is that you had to birth and raise those kids to get grandkids (A LOT of blood, sweat and tears, literally), and you had to squeeze 18 lemons to get that lemonade (because fresh squeezed lemonade tastes so much better than the alternative), and you had to eat overdone meat for many dinners to get that whole barbecue thing down. The reality is that I like the idea of a six pack and leaner legs but I’m not ready to give up chocolate and run regularly to get them.
The key is knowing yourself. Once you know yourself…your limits, your abilities, your weaknesses, your strengths…then you can set goals and priorities. Being self aware is probably one of the hardest things to accomplish and also one of the most important. I know that I will text and drive unless I give my phone to my son in the backseat. I know that I will not get up in the morning to workout. I know that I crave something sweet after every meal. So I plan my workouts for the afternoons and bring fruit to try not to eat the delicious DoubleTree cookies that are delivered to our office daily (or at least that’s what it seems like…where do all those cookie tins come from?!?!?!).
You can apply this theory to so many things. The idea of having bouncy curls every morning is great but the reality of getting up early so I can spend 30 minutes on just my hair…not so great. The idea of having tasty roasted vegetables for dinner sounds great but getting home at 8:30 after a killer workout after a full day at work only to have to wait 30 more minutes for these seasoned and perfectly charred veggies…also not so great. Living in Europe for a year sounds like a great idea, but the reality of applying for a VISA and budgeting for no income for a year and everything else that goes into that plus being away from the people you love the most bites.
The idea of something and the reality of it are usually two different things so I have to check myself and have people around me to keep me grounded but at the same time not squash my dreams. It’s not easy. If you can do all that by yourself, without the help of others, you are way ahead of the game so take a bow. I’m getting there but it’s taken years of reflection, tears, slaps in the face, ugly wake up calls, and journaling to get there.
PS I had the yummy veggies last night and my hair is in bouncy curls this morning and it was all worth it. I think I’ll make them again tonight.