Pushing Through the Pain

One of my favorite movie quotes from one of my favorite movies:

So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s going to be really hard; we’re gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because…

Because in the end it will be worth it.  Just like any hike, just like being a mom, just like losing weight.  Good grief it’s hard but if you keep at it and do it the right way, it’s worth it. The view from the top of the mountain, watching your son graduate (not that I’ve experienced that yet), and fitting into that size you haven’t worn since high school – all worth it.

I have a normal routine and a friend came to visit Monday and I said “You can come but bring your gym clothes because Monday is spin with Mandy at 6:45.”

<Insert grumble here>

<insert excuses here>

“That’s what we do on Monday so if you want to see me, pack a bag, babe.”

So that’s what we did.  We spun.

On the way there there was a lot of “I’m not going to be able to finish.” “I’m not going to be able to walk tomorrow.” Etc. And all that took me back to my first 5k with my dad and sister about two years ago (correct me if I’m wrong, Dad).  It was at a Monastery and it was through the woods and I’m pretty sure it was cold and I was definitely not happy.  I did it.  I didn’t run the whole thing but I did it and I remember at the very end, my sister was waiting for me at the top of the hill.  All I had to do was get to her and I was finished so I pushed hard at the very end – gave it my all – and when I got to her she said the only three words I didn’t want to hear:




WHAT?!?!?  This isn’t the end????!!!!  I’m completely out of juice.  Done.  Finished.  No.  I can’t go any further.

She wouldn’t let me quit there and I apparently did have the 500 steps left in me to get to the finish line.  She held my arm and “ran” with me.  I felt like I was going to throw up and die, but I didn’t do either.  Such a drama queen.  Three tiny miles.  Sheesh!

But I remember and I pushed him because I knew he would be glad he did it just like I am every time he pushes me or I push myself.  Every time I say no to the second roll when I really want to slather it in honey butter and dive in.  Every time I say no to something that doesn’t align with one of my big picture goals that I have for my life.  Every time I say yes to myself and no to someone else.  It’s not always fun to disappoint other people but I can’t hinge my decisions on that anymore.

Push through the pain.  The good stuff is just on the other side.

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Working on My Weak Areas

OUCH!  Tried a different class today and OUCH!  Body works – did I mention ouch? So apparently I’m weak in my hips…who knew?  (You know what theme song I’m thinking for this one don’t you: http://youtu.be/DUT5rEU6pqM. Dang that girl can move!  I must learn to do that.)


So she had us do this exercise that I apparently haven’t done in a very long time (I would describe it but that would just confuse you) and oh my gosh! Ouch! I asked the instructor afterwards what muscle that was targeting and she said the hip flexor.  AHA! I don’t think I ever specifically target that muscle in my workouts and I most certainly will now.

My sister and I have had this conversation before.  She holds her weight in her stomach and has major internal stomach issues and I hold my weight in my hips and thighs and I have major hip issues (the left one clicks when I walk and when I’m really stressed the clicking is worse and painful).  Maybe our bodies are trying to tell us something. Maybe that’s where we hold our stress.  You know in the end it’s all in your head anyways, right? Get your insides right and your outside will follow suit.

I’m not going to link the specific exercise in today’s blog because I’m going to challenge you to go out and try new things and learn about your body (after you have a full physical by a physician of course).  I took a Bar Method class a few weeks ago and confirmed that I actually do have a little duck to my walk/run in my right foot. Take a new class and find out what areas of your body need more attention than others.  Discover where you hold your stress and find stretches you can do to release it. The internet has made it so easy to help yourself.

Food tip of the day: I rarely eat anything that doesn’t taste good to me.  If my body wants something sweet, I have it.  I’ll even go as far as to spit it out if it isn’t “worth the calories”. To that end, I love this email alert from Publix: At Season’s Peak. Nothing grinds me more than getting produce back home that doesn’t taste right.  What’s at season’s peak right now? Clementines.  So go get a crate of them but read their tips and sign up for the alerts using the link above first. It can help you stay on track because you’ll enjoy eating healthy.

Getting Rid of the Things I Don’t Need

imageWho doesn’t love a good before and after picture?  Wow.  I was sent a set of photos from an ex-friend today, and I didn’t know whether to cry or be angry.  What a difference two years and a lot of house cleaning makes.

I have known this for some time now (the words at least):  get rid of things in your life that aren’t serving you. I don’t mean that in a selfish, you-are-of-no-use-to-me kind of way. I mean that in a get-rid-of-the-clutter-so-you-can-live-your-purpose kind of way.

I had so many habits and people around me that I was unable to stand up to that I was letting turn me into a person I didn’t like to look at in the mirror. I had to stop saying yes to everyone but myself. It took a year of doing that to figure out what I would fill my time with if I didn’t let others make my plans for me. That turned out to be much more time with my kid and much more time being physical (either at the gym or outside).

I had to stop with the clutter.  I make more trips to goodwill and dumpster than I ever have before.  Clutter in my life meant clutter in my head and body. Less is more.  So that meant less stuff (including salt, sugar, margaritas, bread and chips). The only things you need more of is love and kindness.

That friend that drains the life out of you all her judgements and negativity (you know who I’m talking about)?  Had to let it go.  Let her be her and you go be the best you you can be without approval from her.

Get rid of the things in your life that aren’t a positive source of energy.  Decide who you want to be and what your priorities are and make choices that align with those.  I found that for me everything else was just a distracting me from becoming the person I wanted to be.

What can you clean out of your closet today?