I was talking to a friend today and he said, “…but I was so absent in the past, why should I show up like a hypocrite in the future.” I responded, “What you did in the past does not define what you do in the future.”
This is so true for so many things. So what you didn’t workout all week? So what you at a cupcake (or 3) for dessert last night? So what you sucked at your last relationship? So what you weren’t the most attentive parent in the past? It’s ALL in the past. There is nothing you can do about that greasy hamburger you ate. Learn from it, don’t order it again, and move on. Workout tomorrow. Be a better partner/friend/lover tomorrow. Be a better listener. Be more compassionate. Be the person you want to be. Make choices that reflect that and forgive yourself when you slip. You’re human. Practice makes perfect. Create new habits. You can do it.
Now say it with me: What I did in the past does not define what I do in the future.
Now go forth and prosper.